when i say i want to marry my favorite musician i don’t mean just bang i mean like
i want to be making pancakes on sunday morning and have him walk downstairs in plaid pajama pants with messy hair and have him kiss me on the nose
shaming is something that is experienced as a result of oppression.
vanilla privilege is not experienced systematically, thus kink shaming does not systematically exist.
like how female privilege is not a thing so men being creep shamed is not a thing.
just like misandry.
or reverse racism.
If it’s not something that is economically, politically and socio-culturally established/enforced, reinforced and maintained through oppressive means, “shaming” that seriously threatens that person will never result from it.